Kathy, 35

'I’d always thought bladder weakness only happened to old people. Not someone like me – fit, healthy and 35'

Apart from everything else, my fear of peeing myself made me pull back from having sex. I certainly didn’t feel sexy around my partner any more – just isolated. I was devastated. I’d always thought bladder weakness only happened to old people. Not someone like me – fit, healthy and 35!

I worried that my partner would leave me, so my self-esteem plummeted. I even started avoiding social situations. After all, every time I laughed, I wet myself. And I also felt self-conscious about these huge, bulky sanitary towels I was using every day. In the end, I was really down, so I decided I had to face up to the problem and confide in my doctor – she set me straight on a few facts and explained my options, and I was really surprised when she prescribed these small pads, specially designed for urine. Talking to her about my bladder weakness was such a relief. Everything she said made so much sense. It really helped me to see that I could enjoy life again.

She also recommended these pelvic floor exercises, which she even hinted might improve my sex life. "What sex life?", I remembered thinking. But I’ve moved on since then and yes, the sex is great! Learning to isolate the inner muscles of the vagina and bladder has actually increased the intensity of my orgasms.

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